The Mask Of Male Depression

The following article is from “esperanza” magazine, a magazine that is focused on the topics of anxiety and depression.  This article is important as many men in the Christian community who are suffering with depression do not feel safe in letting the fact be known.  This is true even in instances where the person is either receiving counseling or using medication to address the issue.

We in the Body of Christ can work towards removing this fear and the underlying stigmatization of all mental illnesses by seeking to demonstrate the love of God to any who are afflicted.

You will need to follow the link to complete reading this article.  Allan

by Michelle Roberts

Esperanza Spring 2009 CoverFor a long time, Chuck P. didn’t know what was wrong with him. A former customer service representative at Wal-Mart in Bowling Green, Kentucky, he sometimes lashed out at coworkers and shoppers. Eventually, he attended anger management classes only to learn that his problem wasn’t anger at all. His therapist helped him identify that he was depressed—and that his irritability was a product of a biochemically-based brain disorder.

“It took me awhile to accept that I was depressed,” says Chuck, 49. “Being a guy, people think that you need to man up and not talk about it. They accuse you of whining about the little things. They don’t understand that depression for guys is difficult because we have all these expectations thrust upon us.”

More than 14 million American adults suffered a major depressive episode in the past year; more than 35 million have had one at some point in their lives. Nearly two-thirds of both those groups are women. However, a chorus of mental health professionals believes that men may suffer from depression at a much higher rate than is documented because they don’t recognize their symptoms or aren’t willing to get help. Even so, more than 6 million men are known to have depression each year in the United States alone, according to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH).

In Canada, about 8 percent of adults will experience an episode of major depression and anxiety at some point in their lives and about 5 percent in a given year, reports Health Canada and Statistics Canada. Again, women account for more of those cases, but many mental health leaders say that male depression is underreported.

Part of the reason for this is that men who are depressed often fail to recognize their condition, chalking it up to apathy, low self-esteem, and anger. And as such, experts say, they experience depression differently than women, often masking the disorder by self-medicating with drugs or alcohol. In both countries, men are four times as likely to die by suicide.

“Men tend to feel that they need to rely only on themselves and that it is somehow weak to have to depend on someone else, even for a short time,” says Frederick E. Rabinowitz, PhD, coauthor of Men and Depression: Clinical and Empirical Perspectives (Academic Press, 2000), written to help therapists work with men experiencing depression.

The way that men think about themselves can impede how they are identified and treated for depression, experts say. Compared with women, men tend to be far more concerned with being competitive, powerful, and successful. They often don’t like to admit that they feel fragile or vulnerable, so they’re less likely to talk about their feelings with their friends, loved ones, or even their doctors.

For Chuck, like many men, coming to terms with depression carries deep social and psychological challenges.

“With me, the more I talk about it the more I feel weird,” he says. “If you’re really a man, you’re not supposed to feel this way.” In our society, he adds, “it’s still a problem for most guys to get up the nerve to seek the help or assistance they need to work through this stuff without feeling like it’s going to come back at them in some sort of way. I feel damned if I do and damned if I don’t.”….

Read more from esperanza! magazine.

In God, Not Out Of Trouble. Streams In The desert, May 31

“And seekest thou great things for thyself? Seek them not: for, behold, I will bring evil upon all flesh, saith the Lord: but thy life will I give unto thee for a prey in all places whither thou goest” (Jeremiah 45:5).

A promise given for hard places, and a promise of safety and life in the midst of tremendous pressure, a life “for a prey.” It may well adjust itself to our own times, which are growing harder as we near the end of the age, and the Tribulation times.

What is the meaning of “a life for a prey”? It means a life snatched out of the jaws of the destroyer, as David snatched the lamb from the lion. It means not removal from the noise of the battle and the presence of our foes; but it means a table in the midst of our enemies, a shelter from the storm, a fortress amid the foe, a life preserved in the face of continual pressure: Paul’s healing when pressed out of measure so that he despaired of life; Paul’s Divine help when the thorn remained, but the power of Christ rested upon him and the grace of Christ was sufficient. Lord, give me my life for a prey, and in the hardest places help me today to be victorious. –Days of Heaven upon Earth

We often pray to be delivered from calamities; we even trust that we shall be; but we do not pray to be made what we should be, in the very presence of the calamities; to live amid them, as long as they last, in the consciousness that we are, held and sheltered by the Lord, and can therefore remain in the midst of them, so long as they continue, without any hurt. For forty days and nights, the Saviour was kept in the presence of Satan in the wilderness, and that, under circumstances of special trial, His human nature being weakened by want of food and rest. The furnace was heated seven times more than it was wont to be heated, but the three Hebrew children were kept a season amid its flames as calm and composed in the presence of the tyrant’s last appliances of torture, as they were in the presence of himself before their time of deliverance came. And the livelong night did Daniel sit among the lions, and when he was taken up out of the den, “no manner of hurt was found upon him, because he believed in his God.” They dwelt in the presence of the enemy, because they dwelt in the presence of God.

Saturday Night Live- Singer Songwriters

As I’ve shared before I have a fondness for this music I grew up with.  These are songs that stand out for me.  The last one is from the 90’s.   The second I heard a song from the album I immediately purchased it.  Hope you enjoy a change of pace.  Allan

Song List

1.  Ventura Highway-  America

2.  American Pie-  Don McLean

3.  Mother-  John Lennon

4.  If You Could Read My Mind-  Gordon Lightfoot

5.  So Far Away-  Carole King

6.  In My Room-  The Beach Boys

7.  Early Morning Rain-  Peter, Paul, and Mary

8.  Big Yellow Taxi-  Joni Mitchell

9.  Annie’s Song-  John Denver

10.  Dust In The Wind-  Kansas

11.  You Are The Sunshine Of My Life-  Stevie Wonder

12.  How You’ve Grown-  10000 Maniacs

This Just Frosts Me- Veteran With PTSD Breaks Law By Having Patriotic Stickers On His Vehicle

The head of a home owners association has decided for some reason only she knows to really anger all of America.  Threatening this man has she has done would be funny if it wasn’t so pathetic.  Be sure to follow the link at the end of the article to see more, including a video.  Allan

From the halls of Montezuma to the …homeowners association for The Woodlands II on The Creek in Dallas?

I do not know why this homeowners association is messing with Frank Larison, 58. He did a 13-month tour of Vietnam in his 14 years in the Marines. He is disabled now and has a disabled veterans license plate.

Why mess with him?

The back of his SUV has somne Marine stickers on it. From Channel 4 in Dallas, the back of the car:

Those stickers drew a letter from the homeowners association. The nut paragraph: “A vehicle with painted or decal advertising of any kind is not permitted on the property at any time.”

James Rose at Fox News was able to quickly find ads on other vehicles including an Obama bumper sticker, a find-the-cure ribbon and a decal of the Fleur di Li.

His report is here.

Why do these homeowners associations mess with people like this?

Prayer Requests & Praise Reports- May 29th

Do we realize that there is nothing the devil dreads so much as prayer? His great concern is to keep us from praying. He loves to see us “up to our eyes” in work—provided we do not pray. He does not fear because we are eager and earnest Bible students—provided we are little in prayer. Someone has wisely said, “Satan laughs at our toiling, mocks at our wisdom, but trembles when we pray.” All this is so familiar to us—but do we really pray? If not, then failure must dog our footsteps, whatever signs of apparent success there may be.

Let us never forget that the greatest thing we can do for God or for man is to pray. For we can accomplish far more by our prayers than by our work. Prayer is omnipotent; it can do anything that God can do! When we pray God works. All fruitfulness in service is the outcome of prayer—of the worker’s prayers, or of those who are holding up holy hands on his behalf. We all know how to pray, but perhaps many of us need to cry as the disciples did of old, “Lord, teach us to pray.”

O Lord, by Whom ye come to God,

The Life, the Truth, the Way,

The path of prayer Thyself hast trod;

Lord, teach us now to pray.

From the book, “The Kneeling Christian”  Author Unknown.

New Prayer Requests

Allan–  Three days ago Stephen and his girlfriend let us know there is a baby on the way. I was in shock initially and didn’t respond as I would have hoped. We are in a much better place and are supporting them as they move forward. Please pray that this child is born into the best environment possible.

I’m going to be a Grandfather! :)

New Praise Report

Susan–  Allan – I wanted to take this time to express my appreciation to you and your prayer partners in keeping my husband in prayer. This Tuesday is another exciting day for us they will remove the catheter from his chest where he was hooked up for the dialysis treatment. I learned that only 6% make it off of dialysis so with that in mind I know that it was a miracle of God and the prayers of Gods people that he made it to where he is at now. I only share this so that others can have hope that God is on the throne and we don’t always understand his ways which are not our ways. I believe our work is not done here in our ministry and only God knows why he brought healing to my husband. All I know is that I’m so grateful for the opportunity to continue on for the work of God’s Kingdom & to serve God’s people. I’m also happy to hear the news of your Son Steven & your Mother. We will continue to keep everyone in our prayers. Thanks Allan to you and my beautiful Sister.

Love Always,
Susan (Your Favorite Sister In Law)  🙂

Past Prayer Requests

Okie Preacher- My wife and I have been going through some very difficult times since we left our last church pastorate. I would rather not go into detail at this time, although I may in the future.

There are many things that are currently distracting and many hurts from the past that need healing. I have been advised by a good friend to perhaps consider taking a sabbatical for a period of prayer and reflection, which I am inclined to do so at this time.

Please pray for us as we wait on God for healing, guidance, and direction.

Dorci- I would love it if people could pray that our son Eric would fall in love with Jesus and would follow Him with all his heart. Thank you.

miniErunner- Please pray for my best friend’s father. He was just diagnosed with throat cancer and will be starting intense chemo within the next few weeks. Please also pray for his wife and 2 daughters. Pray that they will stay strong through all of this.

Allan- Prayer for Stephen as he recovers from two blood patch procedures to address post lumbar headaches.

Natalie Tan–   She is battling an eating disorder and has a tough battle ahead of her. There is a new article posted that is about her. She puts a face to eating disorders and is a young woman that will need prayer.

Set Free–  Please keep us in prayer we are in need of a place to worship. Things have taken place where we share a building and I believe they are looking for ways so that we can move from there. I know it has to be God who opens the doors to where he wants us to be. I also know that the enemy does not like the progress we have made in spreading the Gospel. Thanks again!

Cash–  Hello, friends. May I ask you to pray for me and my family. I just lost my job on Tuesday. It was a good job with really good benefits, so we’re job searching now.

Dorci–  I have some weird issues with my lower legs, swelling, pain, etc. They’ve done ultrasounds but haven’t found anything.

Dusty– Continued prayer for deep depression.

Rachel–  Continued prayer as she struggles with bi-polar disorder.

Allan– Today I saw my urologist and he will be doing a biopsy on my prostate at the beginning of June.

Praise Reports

Allan- My mother’s surgery was successful.  She was without pain and walking the following day.

Allan–  Our son had a positive visit with a pain doctor.  His headaches are now less in intensity and less frequent.  Lord willing they will be gone within a few months.

Long Term Prayer Requests

Nene – Prayer for her father to be saved and to come to a place of peace. Father and brother have been estranged 27 years.

Dorci–  I just have a praise report that in almost 3 years of suffering with daily headaches I am finding some relief. I still have them every day, but I have times during the day when I don’t have one at all, and at night they are usually not as bad as they have been.

anne–  Keep anne in prayer as she has moved and struggles with dark bouts of depression and deals with anxiety. There is much trouble with extended family and anne will need a job.

Allan– The wife of our nephew has MS as I have shared in the past. This week they found another lesion on her brain. Please continue to pray.

Allan–  We have a niece who is coming out of ten years suffering with Anorexia. She is now battling depression and would covet our prayers. She is a beautiful young Christian mother with a fantastic husband and two adorable young boys.